There’s almost nothing more repulsive to me than a catty woman. Although, an infomercial on a product called “Pedi-spin” came close once. An involuntary gag reflex forced me to change the channel. While that was extremely disgusting, a true “mean girl” will usually get me upset faster and cause me to avoid more often than almost anything. The root of this most likely comes from being bullied as a kid. Presently, it’s more about the kind of people I want to surround myself with. I believe you become like who you hang around and we should be mindful of that at any age.
I get a chance to fight these feelings often. When I arrive to pick up my children from various events, women can be overheard sharing their thoughts and feelings about the world. At times, doing this loud and proud. I know how some strangers feel about their daughter in laws, their daughter in law’s mothers, the school board, other parents 20 feet away, and many other subjects.
I’ve heard all this just from passing by. Imagine what I would know if I actually participated in the gossip!
Like a moth to the flame we are drawn in to perceived warmth. Outgoing personalities give the illusion of light. And just like a fire, there is a thin line between the comfort of its warmth and the result of getting too close.
“And the tongue is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness, corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole life on fire, for it is set on fire by hell itself.” James 3:6 NLT
I don’t think it was an afterthought when God described our tongues as a flame. Fire has the ability to purify, destroy, clean, burn, provide light and warmth, etc. I believe that every conversation has the same potential outcomes.
A contained fire is actually a beautiful thing. It’s one of my favorite benefits about our house- starting a fire in the fireplace and enjoying the heat. That same comforting fire, however, has the ability to burn my house down. That I would enjoy much less!
Our ability to communicate is a beautiful gift- but it needs boundaries. We need to be mindful of what we add to conversations… fire needs fuel and oxygen-which we usually have plenty of.
I’m also challenged today to view my tongue as a literal spark- which means I need to be careful…. especially around dry or dead material (in myself and others).
My point today is this… In conversations let’s be careful to put out more fires than we start!
And, I do have a goal bigger than avoiding catty women. It’s to avoid becoming one!