Every morning I have a general routine that follows me. I say it that way because I can count on my two children following me as I desperately try to drink a cup of coffee and check my facebook page. Parents of toddlers – you know what I mean. Some days it’s like, “I have 20 minutes. Do I take a much needed shower, eat something or take a power nap?”
A few months back, my kids decided to break routine and play “Batman” and “BatGirl” ahead of schedule. This allowed me to enjoy an entire cup of coffee and sit for a few minutes without interruption. (By the way, if you haven’t tried coconut creamer by coffee mate — you are seriously missing out!)
As I looked through the Facebook feed, something caught my eye. I noticed that two of my friends shared a birthday that day. I clicked on their pages and began thinking about the interesting similarities and differences between these two lives. They both hold a special place in my heart and here’s how I would sum up my thoughts about them that day….
“Two women born on the same day in history…. Years apart in age- Light years apart in the legacy they will leave.”
The first woman is one of those amazing success stories. Through some unforeseeable events, she was abandoned by her husband and left to raise three beautiful girls by herself. Her husband chose selfish desires over the God-given gift of family. I have watched this woman pave a road for her children and grandchildren to walk. The Lord has blessed her life and awarded her with a Godly heritage.
The second woman is one of those sad reminders of the importance of daily choice. She also had three amazing and beautiful girls. Her circumstance however, was not handed to her- it was chosen. Instead of enjoying the family God had given her, she chose to leave her husband and chase selfish desires.
One woman was abandoned, the other chose to abandon. One woman left a trail of blessing and prayer…. The other is leaving a trail of tears.
Like I said, they both hold a special place in my heart, but I admire the first woman because of her character. I have watched her life and have drawn strength from her choices on numerous occasions.
Her place in my heart is special because her name is Verda and she is my Grandma.
Proverbs 24:3-4 (NLT) “A house is built through wisdom and becomes strong through good sense. Through knowledge its rooms are filled with all sorts of precious riches and valuables.”
I am so thankful for the road that was paved for me. For the house that was built for me. Because of the care that went into building it, I get to be one of the “precious riches and valuables” that fill the rooms.
My Grandma eventually remarried an amazing and Godly man. The two of them had a very big impact on me, spiritually. They picked me up for church every Sunday. They played with me and prayed with me. As soon as they found out about me, they began praying this over my life:
“For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you and asking God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light.” Colossians 1:9-12 (NIV)
When I would sleep over at their house, my grandma would read me a bedtime story. I always wanted her to read “Bugs Bunny goes to the Dentist.” ( I have no idea why- I hate going to the dentist!) But, she patiently read it and followed it up with a bible story. The night would end with prayer for me and my future husband.
“Legacy.” Such a small word with sobering and powerful consequence.
In my daily choices, what story am I writing for my children? Am I packing the days full of heritage? Or, am I just packing…. leaving them with baggage to sort through later in life? I guess it depends on the day.
Proverbs 31:28-29 (NLT). “Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: ‘There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all.”
May this scripture mark my life as it has my Grandmother.